186: Stop Chasing. See What Happens When You Let Go.

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Margarita Nazarenko (1:09)

Here we go. Welcome back to the BEING HER podcast, where today it's going to get juicy, it's going to get spicy and it's going to get real life. Because we've already dominated the word unbothered, and we are now dominating the word unfiltered because I've launched a substack called Unfiltered with Margarita, duh. On there, you're going to see two things, articles about relationships of development, woman, life from my perspective, and another thing you're going to see with your beautiful, little sparkly eyes is a Dear Margarita column. You're going to write to me. I'll put the link in the description.

My team will choose a question at random so that we're answering different questions, and we're going to put it on that Substack. Pop it in there. Have a go, love.

So today, I am full of energy. I have been on the carnivore diet for a couple of days. My keto flu is gone, but the energy is here. Can you tell in my speaking, in my language, that the energy is here? Do not come for me unless I asked for you, okay? So really funny story. You guys might have seen that in this episode, you see there's always gonna be 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps. So sit with me for the story because the story, the prelude is important for the function of the episode because you're beautiful but dumb ass is over-functioning in this life. I'm not gonna lie to you. You're over-functioning. You're doing too much. You're doing too much. I was gonna call you Jessica, but I'll call you Alexandra, Raweesha, something else, you know.

You're doing too much. You're doing too much in this life and you're not getting the life you want because secure women win at life. Women who can pause win at life. Women who have queen energy win at life and you are scrambling around like a mouse on crack trying to please people, trying to do the thing and it's not working. So we're gonna fix it. But the story, the prelude we need is this. I went to Hamerica and I went on a couple of podcasts. I went on the Women of Impact. I'll leave the episode down below and it's also on my channel. And I went on the Skinny Confidential, which is now The Bossticks. Now, they invited me many, many years ago, many, many moons ago when I first had my daughter, two years ago, two and a half years ago. She was born in 2023, December, right? So she's almost turning three. So they invited me and I was like, I have a newborn baby girl. Like I would love to be ambitious and I would love to be all these things. But my whole business, my whole brand is built on the fact that I kind of want to witness these children growing up. And I also don't have a family infrastructure here where I live. My mom is in London. She's far away and she is killing it at life.

What is this Gen Z thing you do when you clap with your fingers? Clap it, clock it, whatever it is, right?

She's doing so well. I'm so proud of her. She had me quite young, so she's only 20 years older than me. So she's still in her thriving era, although she has taken up gardening and she has taken up, you know, putting vegetables and growing them into the earth. And I think, you know, she's entering her winding down, chilling out era, which I love for her. Like come and grow your vegetables at my house, mom. I would really appreciate that. But listen, you're exhausted because you're doing too much of the things that aren't yours. You're claiming the things that don't belong to you, baby girl. And that is the problem. And I discovered it when a clip came on to Instagram from The Bossticks, which I had a brilliant time on. Lauren and Michael, that was one of the podcasts that was the catalyst of me even starting a podcast. They just taught me how it's done. I guess I watched them from the beginning. They don't know that though, I don't think. Anyway, going on there was like this really cathartic moment because my daughter is at the pinnacle of this story and it is because I couldn't go with her when she was so little and then eventually she was a one year old and they're a nightmare on the plane. And then I said yes to coming when she's like two and a half years old. I packed up my kids. My husband decided to come with me and take time off work, which he never does unheard of. I was like, oh my God, I gotta spend time with him. This is crazy. And he came, we all went and he watched the kids while I did the episodes and we didn't bring any help. Lauren thought I was crazy to do that, to help fill through, okay?