17 Ugly Psychology Truths No One Wants To Admit - Adam Lane Smith - #674

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello friends, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Adam Lane Smith. He's a psychotherapist and an author. Adam has helped thousands of patients and couples to deal with problems from childhood, their relationships and their sex lives. He also writes amazing Twitter threads filled with insights from his time as a therapist. And today we get to go through some of my favorites. Expect to learn why having sex with a man on the first date won't make him fall in love with you, why it shouldn't be a surprise to most men when their partner divorces them, the psychological effect of relying on daycare for newborn babies, why men don't understand how female communication works, whether love or respect is more important in a relationship, and much more. These conversations with Adam are some of my favorites. He's like a clinically trained psychology version of Alex Hormozi in a way. So yeah, I love these listicle style episodes. They're really fast paced and the stuff that you learn is just so applicable. So yeah, get ready for this one. Also other exciting news, Eric Weinstein is joining me this Monday on Modern Wisdom, one of the most legendary guests in podcast world history. And we went for three and a half hours and partway through, he started playing a ukulele sized guitar and then picked up a chainsaw. It went everywhere. It was a wide ranging conversation and I had so much fun. So yes, make sure that you are subscribed ready for that one. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Whoop. Whoop is the best fitness tracker that I have ever used. It tracks your sleep, your strain, your recovery, your stress and more to provide personalized insights that help you to reach your goals. So whether you're obsessed with squeezing a little bit more effort out in the gym or getting extra hours of sleep in, Whoop will help you to build better habits and make healthier choices. It's got professional-grade technology developed by the world's leading human performance experts and it tracks your heart rate with 99.7 accuracy and provides near perfect sleep tracking outperforming all other wearables. I'm a massive fan. I've used it for a very long time, far before they were a partner on the show and best of all you can join for free, pay nothing for the brand new Whoop 4 strap plus you get your first month for free and there's a 30-day money back guarantee. So you can buy it for free, try it for free and if you do not like it after 29 days, they will give you your money back. Head to join.whoop.com/modernwisdom to get all of that right now. join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. In other other news, this episode is brought to you by MyProtein. They are the number one spot supplement company worldwide, literally the biggest on the planet and it is no surprise because they make the greatest protein that I've ever tried, which is their clear way. It's light and fruity. It looks and tastes like juice, but it has more protein in than a normal protein shake. So if your current protein powder has been giving you digestive discomfort or bloating, or you don't like the taste or it's hot and you want to be more refreshed, this is the solution for you. I fell in love with it the first time I tried it and I haven't gone back since. Also get yourself a steel shaker. Stop using a plastic shaker that's leaking BPAs and estrogens into your water and their protein snacks, everything, their apparel, their bags, whatever it is that you need from creatine to protein, they have it all and they do international shipping. Plus you can get 37% or greater of everything site-wide and worldwide if you go to the link bit.ly slash protein wisdom and use the code ModernWisdom at checkout. That's bit.ly slash ProteinWisdom and ModernWisdom at checkout. And in final news, this episode is brought to you by Surfshark VPN. Protect your browsing online and get access to the entire world's Netflix library for less than the price of a cup of coffee per month. If you're using a public Wi-Fi network like a library or a cafeteria, the internet admin of that network can see all of the traffic going back and forth between your computer and the internet. And you do not want that. I recently went to the Bahamas and the only way that I could use a bunch of services, including YouTube premium, because that doesn't exist in the Bahamas for some reason, was by logging on to Surfshark and putting my location back into the US. Also it means you can use services like Disney Plus, HBO Max while you are abroad, and it gives you access to the entire world's Netflix library, which like 10x is your Netflix membership for the price of $2 a month. There is no reason not to do this. Head to surfshark.deals slash modern wisdom for an 83% discount, three months free, and a 30 day money back guarantee. That's surfshark.deals slash modern wisdom. But now ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Adam Lane Smith.