166: Life Updates, Parenting, and Social Media Detox with Stef Bare

**Nick Bare** (0:00)
We're not sharing this stuff to say that we haven't figured out.

**Stef Bare** (0:03)
Yeah.

**Nick Bare** (0:04)
And that life is all like rainbows and butterflies and peaceful and calm. No, our house is chaos.

**Stef Bare** (0:13)
Oh, there was tears at 6.52 this morning.

**Nick Bare** (0:16)
And like this past weekend, we had the most epic meltdown ever trying to go into Home Depot. Like we didn't even make it through the parking lot into Home Depot. We had to turn around.

**Stef Bare** (0:27)
And go home.

**Nick Bare** (0:28)
And there's a meltdown over which shopping cart we were taking. So Charlie was losing it, and then Niko was losing it.

**Stef Bare** (0:35)
He was scared of his sister.

**Nick Bare** (0:37)
So we threw everyone in their car seats, and we drove home.

**Stef Bare** (0:39)
Yeah, so by no means. But we make it, I think the important thing is that we make the effort to try to get it as peaceful and fulfilling as possible. But is that always the case? I would say it's 50-50.

**Nick Bare** (1:00)
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to another episode of the podcast. Today we have my wife, Stef Bare.

**Stef Bare** (1:06)
I'm back.

**Nick Bare** (1:07)
Welcome back.

**Stef Bare** (1:08)
I checked the last one, it was November. So, a while.

**Nick Bare** (1:13)
It was probably during Iron Man prep. It wasn't after Iron Man prep.

**Stef Bare** (1:20)
You are right, yup.

**Nick Bare** (1:21)
Yeah.

**Stef Bare** (1:22)
Lots has happened.

**Nick Bare** (1:23)
It's crazy. I mean, I was just thinking about this on my run this morning. That was, the Iron Man was four months ago.

**Stef Bare** (1:31)
Feels like it's been longer, honestly.

**Nick Bare** (1:34)
But when you're in it, when I was in the prep, those 18 weeks felt like a long time. And then it's over and then life just happened so quickly.

**Stef Bare** (1:46)
Yeah. I mean, I was thinking about it. The school year for Charlie is done in a month and a half. That's weird.

**Nick Bare** (1:53)
This is the year one of her going to school?

**Stef Bare** (1:55)
Yeah.

**Nick Bare** (1:57)
I almost would have said it was year two.

**Stef Bare** (1:59)
Yeah.

**Nick Bare** (2:00)
All right. So lots of things we want to discuss and cover today. The first thing, I put up a poll on my Instagram a few days ago. We had a rough outline of what we wanted to talk about in this conversation today, but I was just curious what other people wanted to hear about.
And there was a lot of the same questions and responses. People have been really interested in this social media weekend fast that we've been doing probably for a month now. Yeah.

**Stef Bare** (2:38)
About a month. I would say over a month.

**Nick Bare** (2:41)
Maybe six weeks.

**Stef Bare** (2:42)
I think I would have been doing it a little bit longer than you because I'm the one that crashed out about it, and then you joined me about a month ago.

**Nick Bare** (2:47)
So people are really curious. Yeah. I would say that this has been one of the greatest things.

**Stef Bare** (2:55)
Well, let's talk about what is it? What do we do?

**Nick Bare** (2:56)
That at least I, maybe we have done. Yeah. So essentially the way my phone is set up, and you take a different approach to it.

**Stef Bare** (3:05)
I do. I take the adding to approach.

**Nick Bare** (3:09)
I have an app on my phone called AppBlock.

**Stef Bare** (3:13)
I have that too for weekday stuff.

**Nick Bare** (3:15)
And you can set schedules of when certain apps are able to be accessed and certain apps aren't able to be accessed. And there's also a strict mode on it, which is another layer of security.

**Stef Bare** (3:28)
Never tapped into that.

**Nick Bare** (3:29)
I use the strict mode. I have to use the strict mode.

**Stef Bare** (3:31)
Okay.

**Nick Bare** (3:31)
So I can't get into these apps. So mine turns on every Friday night.

**Stef Bare** (3:39)
Oh, your strict mode turns on.

**Nick Bare** (3:40)
So my strict mode turns on Friday night, and then it turns off Monday morning. So I can't access any of my social media apps. YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, which I really never get on or use, Facebook, my podcast, Analytics, any social media platforms I can't access. I will say, not having access to YouTube...

**Stef Bare** (4:06)
Oh, I was going to say recipes is hard sometimes.

**Nick Bare** (4:10)