15 Harsh Psychology Truths - Adam Lane Smith - #599

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Adam Lane Smith. He's a psychotherapist and an author. Adam has helped thousands of patients and couples to deal with problems from childhood, their relationships and their sex lives. He also writes amazing Twitter threads filled with insights from his time as a therapist. And today we get to go through some of my favorites. Expect to learn the common trend Adam saw in every couples therapy session he conducted. The biggest differences between male and female communication styles, why so many young girls are on depression medication, why the female sex drive switches after 6 to 12 months into a relationship, what mistakes all women wish guys would stop making on the first 3 dates, and much more. Don't forget, you might be listening but not subscribed. And if that's you, then come on, sort yourself out. It would support the show and it would make me very happy. And it means that you're not going to miss episodes when they go live. So go to Spotify and press the follow button in the middle of the page or the little plus in the top right hand corner on Apple podcasts. I thank you. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Whoop. Whoop is a personalised digital fitness and health coach that monitors your body's physiology 24-7 via a non-invasive wearable and provides you with feedback on your lifestyle, training, sleep and recovery via an accompanying app. Whoop doesn't just tell you what you've done, it tells you what you need to do. Whoop is more than just a fitness tracker, it's a coach that can help you to identify areas for improvement in your life, reinforcing positive behaviours and helping you to alleviate habits that have a negative impact on your overall health and well-being. This is only able to be completed because it is tracking you 24 hours a day. Your sleep, your recovery, your workouts, the way that you move in between work, whether you're taking the stairs instead of taking the lift, all of this contributes to your health and your overall wellness, and Whoop is there with you throughout all of it. Also, you can join for free, pay nothing for the brand new Whoop 4 strap, plus you get your first month for free, and there's a 30-day money back guarantee, so you can buy it for free, try it for free, and if you do not like it after 29 days, they will give you your money back. Head to join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. That's join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. In other, other news, this episode is brought to you by Hevy App. Hevy App is a workout tracker that just works. It is super simple, but incredibly well designed. It gets out of your way so that while you're doing a workout, you don't spend forever tracking what you're actually doing and you can focus on getting your workout done properly. It's got intuitive workout logging, advanced routine planning. It can mark warmups, drop sets and failures. You can have automatic rest timers, add exercise notes and more. You can track your exercise sets, reps and weights for each workout. It allows you to tailor your workout plan to your preferences. And it will measure your progress over time because you can have exercise charts, personal records, one rep max calculators. There's even a one and a half million person gym community where you can follow along and compete with other athletes to stay motivated. And best of all, it is completely free to download on the app store for iOS and Android. So you can go and check it out right now by searching for Hevy, that's H-E-V-Y in your Android or iOS app store, or there is a link in the description below. That's H-E-V-Y on the app store for iOS and Android, or the link in the description below. And in final news, this episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. You are not eating enough fruit and vegetables in your diet, and you know it, and this is going to help. With so many stresses in life, it's difficult to maintain effective nutritional habits and give our bodies the nutrients it needs to thrive. Busy schedules, poor sleep, exercise, the environment, stress, or simply not eating enough of the right foods can leave us deficient in key nutrients. This is where Athletic Greens can help. It is a life-changing nutritional habit. Their daily all-in-one superfood powder is your nutritional essential, the easiest and most convenient way that you can add into your daily routine some nutritional insurance and empower yourself toward better habits. They have simplified the logistic of getting optimal nutrition on a daily basis by giving you one thing with all of the best things, 75 vitamins, minerals, and whole food-sourced ingredients, plus a 90-day money-back guarantee so you can buy it and try it for 89 days. And if you do not like it, they will give you your money back and a year's supply of vitamin D and five free travel packs as well. All of that is available if you go to athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom. That's athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom.