15 Harsh Psychology Truths - Adam Lane Smith - #310

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hi, friends, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Adam Lane Smith. He's a psychotherapist and an author, and we are talking about 15 harsh psychology truths. Humans are not transparent to ourselves. We're complex creatures who operate on ancient programming. Having spent years and years as a practicing psychotherapist for men, women and couples, Adam has come to learn some insights about us, which he put into an epic Twitter thread, and that's what we go through today. So, expect to learn why women are disgusted when they learn how the male sex drive works, why having an asshole for a child is your fault, why performative sex stops a woman from orgasming, why depressed men probably don't need medication, the truth about overcoming sexual trauma, how your brain stops you from having sex with your sister, and much more. Most of the time, the internet is a cesspool where people just call each other names, but every so often on social media, I stumble across something like Adam's awesome Twitter thread, I reach out to him and this episode is so good. It is uncomfortable. There are things in here that you don't want to know, but not knowing them doesn't make life any better. And in fact, knowing them can allow you to account for them and overcome them. You've also got a great opportunity to practice a little bit of mindfulness as you're listening to this. And as different emotions come up while you're hearing all of the harsh truths, you can ask, where's this coming from? Why is it that this particular insight about human nature makes me feel this way? Is there something that maybe I need to look at, but maybe this is an identifier that I've got some self-work to do around this particular area or that particular area. I loved this episode, even though it does make you cringe at times, but these insights around human nature, I think are endlessly fascinating. And I really hope that you enjoy them as well. In other news, this podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Speaking of therapy, Adam has seen fantastic progress with his clients over the years, and BetterHelp is the easiest and quickest way to be matched with your own licensed professional therapist, and you can start communicating in under 48 hours. It's not a crisis line, it's not self-help, it is professional counseling done securely online. There's a broad range of expertise available which might not be locally available in your area. The service is available for clients worldwide. You can log in to your account at any time and send a message to your counselor. You'll get timely and thoughtful responses, plus you can schedule weekly video or phone sessions, so you don't even have to leave the house. 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