#1367 - Bridget Phetasy

Joe Rogan (0:00)

Doo, doo, doo. Hello, Bridget.

What's happening?

Bridget Phetasy (0:06)

Nothing. I'm so excited.

Joe Rogan (0:07)

We made it happen.

Bridget Phetasy (0:08)

We did. Happy Sober October.

Joe Rogan (0:11)

This is the first podcast ever where Marshall is in the room.

Bridget Phetasy (0:13)

Oh my gosh, I feel so honored.

Joe Rogan (0:15)

We are honored. This is a special one. He's just exhausted, and I knew he wanted to just lie down next to me.

Bridget Phetasy (0:21)

My dog always comes through the YouTube show, and we're always like, oh, she's gonna knock over the lights in the middle, but you see her come in and out in the edits.

Joe Rogan (0:28)

Well, when Red Band and I used to do the podcast back in the day, we used to do it in my office in my house when my kids were really little. So I'd hear like screaming and crying in the background, you know, she took my toy, something like that, you know. So thanks for doing this.

Bridget Phetasy (0:42)

Thank you. How's Sober October going?

Joe Rogan (0:45)

It's great.

Bridget Phetasy (0:45)

I want to thank you for doing that.

Joe Rogan (0:47)

Why is that?

Bridget Phetasy (0:48)

Because it creates a community, and it's super cool for people to just have that month of clarity. I just think it's really cool. I'm grateful. I'm grateful. It's my sober birthday in October, so I-

Joe Rogan (0:59)

It's like, how many years?

Bridget Phetasy (1:00)

Six years.

Joe Rogan (1:01)

That's a lot.

Bridget Phetasy (1:02)

No, that's insane.

Joe Rogan (1:03)

You said weed's the hardest part?

Bridget Phetasy (1:05)

Yeah. Weed is-

Joe Rogan (1:07)

Are you sure you need to be sober from weed?

Bridget Phetasy (1:10)

Yeah, I've tried. Because here's the thing. Here's the kind of, you really want to know what kind of addict I am. I can do it for a while. So I was in rehab when I was 19 for heroin.

And I started using everything when I was 12, 13 years old. Well, not everything, but I mean, I started drinking and smoking weed. All over. I moved every year and a half. It's a long story.

My whole thing sounds like an improv and like I'm making it all up, but it was just chaotic upbringing. But I'm from the East Coast, and then I graduated from high school in Minnesota. So to give you, we just moved a lot. I went to like 11 schools in 12 years.

So I started drinking really young. I started smoking weed right around when my parents got divorced. And then I was pretty much a daily smoker from the day that I found weed. It was like, ah. Really? Oh my God. I had like 14

Joe Rogan (2:05)

So was it a release? Was it an escape? Was it just a perturbance of normal consciousness?

Bridget Phetasy (2:11)

My upbringing was kind of chaotic. And honestly, I think that I owe weed a debt of gratitude because I don't know that I could have been fully present for what was going on in the house and not like killed myself or done something worse. It was just too much for like a small developing brain to handle. And weed put enough of that nice like fuzzy distance between me and the like chaos. Fuzzy distance. Fuzzy distance. I'm going to start it. It's just going to be me alone crying on stage.

And so it was good except then I escalated after I was drugged and raped when I was 18

Sorry, not to get heavy. It's part of my story. It's horrible. But bad shit, like one of the things that I've had to come to terms with is, you know, I don't blame myself for that happening, but I do have to take responsibility for the fact that when you're a woman or a girl and you're out getting blacked out and in this instance, you're around people who are bad, things happen that are not good. It sucks. But you know, if I had daughters, I would be like, watch your fucking drinks and like, be careful and don't get, don't try not to black out because you don't know what is going to go down.

Joe Rogan (3:38)

There are so many people that I know that have been drugged.

Bridget Phetasy (3:42)

Yeah. I know. I know. The thing about that, that's so weird to me, well, A, I don't, I try to make light of everything because I have to in order to survive and I'm from the East Coast. That's just how I handle shit. Like my family's from Rhode Island. My dad's one, my dad's one of 10 It was a roast battle growing up. You know, like you either, if you were the sensitive one, they're like, Oh, you're going to cry about it. You couldn't survive. You had to just be like on top of it.