1043. Q&AF: When To Quit Your Job, Chasing Bigger Dreams & Being Intentional

**Andy Frisella** (0:16)
What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to reality. Guys, today, we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. DJ, how can they submit their questions?

**DJ** (0:36)
Yeah guys, you can email these questions in to askandy at andyfrisella.com. You can also click the link in the description, submit them there for a chance to be answered, or just drop them in the comment section of the Q and AF videos right here on YouTube.

**Andy Frisella** (0:47)
Let's just get right into it, man.

**DJ** (0:49)
Yeah.

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**DJ** (1:19)
Share the show.

**Andy Frisella** (1:20)
All right. And that goes for the clips too.

**DJ** (1:23)
Got to share the clips.

**Andy Frisella** (1:24)
Yeah.

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Yeah, got to share the clips.

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**DJ** (1:27)
I mean, we got some good ones coming out too, potentially.

**Andy Frisella** (1:31)
Do we?

**DJ** (1:32)
Yeah, maybe. I'm not the judge of it, but I've been told.

**Andy Frisella** (1:36)
All right.

**DJ** (1:37)
What's going on, man?

**Andy Frisella** (1:38)
Nothing, dude.

**DJ** (1:39)
Yeah, it's a beautiful day.

**Andy Frisella** (1:40)
Just doing the thing.

**DJ** (1:41)
Yeah, what's the thing?

**Andy Frisella** (1:43)
The thing.

**DJ** (1:43)
Oh, yeah.

**Andy Frisella** (1:45)
Just doing the thing.

**DJ** (1:47)
The thing is getting done.

**Andy Frisella** (1:48)
Yeah.

**DJ** (1:48)
That's right, man. Yeah, no, guys, it's great. As always, I got three good ones for you.

**Andy Frisella** (1:53)
All right, man.

**DJ** (1:54)
And let's get into it. Yeah. Yeah, shall we?

**Andy Frisella** (1:57)
Guys, let's make some people better.

**DJ** (1:59)
Let's make some people better, man. Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, I've got a good job making around 90K a year.
And on nights and weekends, I've been building a business that's starting to get some traction. Everybody keeps telling me, you'll know when it's time to quit your job. The problem is, I don't think you ever really know. There's a part of me that's excited and another part that's terrified of walking away from stability. Looking back, how did you know the difference between making a smart bet on yourself and making an emotional decision?

**Andy Frisella** (2:34)
I mean, what's stability? Stability, a job where you could get fired because technology changes or your boss doesn't like the way you look at him? Is that stability?
I mean, let's redefine what stability actually means. In my opinion, stability means that you are in control of your own outcomes as much as possible, and I trust myself more than I trust other people, which I think everybody should.
But unfortunately, they don't because we're surrounded by fucking losers, okay, our whole lives. And I don't mean that as like a derogatory statement. I mean that as a matter of factual description of what people are. Most people set goals. They never achieve those goals, and they repeat that process their entire lives, which by definition makes them losers and not winners. Winners set goals and achieve goals and set new goals and achieve goals. That's the difference. So when we look at the environment that we're surrounded by growing up, for most of us, we are surrounded by objectively people that lose.
Okay. And those people put ideas in our head, like because they weren't able to do something, you're not able to do something.
And those ideas affect our mindset. They affect our own evaluation and trust in ourselves, because it's abnormal to do things, like go out on your own and build things that most people don't build. I mean, that's an abnormal thing. And anything that you do outside the bubble of normal is going to get criticized by people who couldn't do those things. That is common sense to me. I don't know. That should be common sense to other people, but maybe you've never thought about it before. But the reality is, is most of the people you know in your life, and you can love them, you could think they're great people, they could be great friends, but objectively, they lose far more than they win. Those people have a life experience of losing. Those people put these ideas in your head, which usually creates enough doubt to where people believe that they are going to be destined to live the outcome that these people have lived. So there's that.