1041. Q&AF: Developing Leadership Qualities, Defense Or Offense & Aiming High Vs Being Realistic artwork

1041. Q&AF: Developing Leadership Qualities, Defense Or Offense & Aiming High Vs Being Realistic

REAL AF with Andy Frisella

June 29, 2026

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to become a leader that people naturally want to follow at a young age, when to play offense versus defense after you've built something successful, and how to know if you've settled for less instead of staying ambitious.
Speakers: Andy Frisella
**Andy Frisella** (0:17)
What is up, guys? It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to reality. Guys, today we have Q&AF, that's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. You can submit your questions a couple of different ways, DJ will tell you how.

**SPEAKER_1** (0:33)
Yeah, guys, you can email your questions in to askandydandydfrisella.com. You guys can also click the link in the description below, submit them there, or just drop them in the comment section of the Q&AF videos right here on YouTube.

**Andy Frisella** (0:44)
You guys know how it works.
We're gonna have shows within the show throughout the week. We're gonna have probably CTI. Might hit you with a special 4th of July CTI this week. We know we've been on and off schedule, but I have other things that have to be done. I'm not a full-time podcaster, contrary to what the internet thinks. There is a fee for the show. The fee is very simple.
Share the show, man. We don't do ads on this show. We're the biggest show in the world that doesn't do ads. And the reason we don't do ads is because I don't want people thinking that I'm getting paid to say anything. So it's very simple. If the show makes you think, if it makes you laugh, gives you a new perspective, if you learn something, think it's worth sharing, do us a favor, man, and help us grow the show by sharing it. So don't be a hoe.

**SPEAKER_1** (1:30)
Share the show.

**Andy Frisella** (1:31)
All right. What's up?

**SPEAKER_1** (1:32)
My brother.

**Andy Frisella** (1:33)
Yeah. No shit, man. Were you about to start Race Riot?

**SPEAKER_1** (1:36)
My doc called me Malcolm XL.

**Andy Frisella** (1:38)
Malcolm XL?

**SPEAKER_1** (1:39)
It's not funny.

**Andy Frisella** (1:40)
Malcolm XXL?

**SPEAKER_1** (1:42)
Oh, no. Come on, man.

**Andy Frisella** (1:43)
That's who you used to be. Now you're just XL.

**SPEAKER_1** (1:46)
That's right. That's right. What's going on, though, man?

**Andy Frisella** (1:48)
Nothing, dude.

**SPEAKER_1** (1:49)
Dude, the blue light actually does help. It does help.

**Andy Frisella** (1:52)
It helps a lot.

**SPEAKER_1** (1:53)
It helps a lot.

**Andy Frisella** (1:53)
It helps me with my sleep. Sleeping a lot better.

**SPEAKER_1** (1:56)
I need help with my sleep. Real talk. Sleeping hurts now.

**Andy Frisella** (2:00)
What do you mean?

**SPEAKER_1** (2:01)
I just wake up and shit's just fucked up, dude. What is that?

**Andy Frisella** (2:04)
Oh, you don't even know. I don't even want to hear that. I don't even want to hear that from you, man.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:09)
Bro, my shoulder has been fucking killing me.

**Andy Frisella** (2:12)
I don't even want to hear it.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:14)
It sucks.

**Andy Frisella** (2:15)
I don't want to.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:16)
I don't know if I could hurt myself from sleeping.

**Andy Frisella** (2:17)
Yeah, give it another 15 years.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:21)
Is there anything I could do to make it better?

**Andy Frisella** (2:24)
No.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:24)
No, it's just the cards I've been dealt.

**Andy Frisella** (2:27)
That's right.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:28)
Fuck, man.

**Andy Frisella** (2:29)
It's called age.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:30)
Is that what it is?

**Andy Frisella** (2:31)
Yeah.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:31)
Well, life is ageist.
No, sweet, man. How you doing?

**Andy Frisella** (2:36)
Good.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:36)
Yeah. We got a busy weekend.

**Andy Frisella** (2:38)
Yeah.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:39)
A lot of great things happening here.

**Andy Frisella** (2:41)
Yes, sir.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:41)
And we're here. You guys are listening on a Monday to get better.

**Andy Frisella** (2:45)
Yeah.
Before we get started, just to let you guys know, we are in QT again. A lot of you guys have been asking about QT. We are. You will find FORM Energy in QT, along with the FORM Ready Drink Proteins, Meat Sticks, Snacks, the full line up back in QT. Just letting you guys know that important announcement.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:06)
It's a great announcement.

**Andy Frisella** (3:06)
Yeah, it's great.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:08)
I like Quick Trip.

**Andy Frisella** (3:09)
Yeah.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:09)
The taquitos.

**Andy Frisella** (3:10)
Yeah.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:11)
Well, they got this new shit out there now. They got chicken tenders, dog.

**Andy Frisella** (3:16)
I want to hear about that either.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:17)
Andy, they slap. Okay.

**Andy Frisella** (3:19)
I know.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:20)
No sauce.

**Andy Frisella** (3:21)
Dude, I know. QT's food is good.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:25)
Dude, I've never had chicken tenders. They didn't eat sauce.

**Andy Frisella** (3:27)
See, dude, I'm a regular person. I have regular people tastes.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:33)
That's right. That's right.

**Andy Frisella** (3:33)

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