#1 Career Coach: You’re Building A Life You Don’t Actually Want! (Do This Instead)

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The stupidest thing in the world for your failure, right? I hope you fail because then you'll just keep taking big swings. You should follow your passion, but what if you suck at it? It's actually easier in life if you're doing what you're good at. My guest, Suzy Welch, she's a best-selling author, NYU professor. Today, we're diving into life's biggest questions. Who am I? What do I want? We're going to give you simple practical frameworks so you can build a life that works for you instead of the other way around. Jenzy says we can't understand why we're not getting hired. That's because they're looking for values that you don't have. Do you find the youth is over-optimizing happiness? If you don't walk through the valley of despair, you're never going to be on the mountaintop. What is the number one reason why people won't achieve the life that they want?

So, I love some of your spike points of view. Okay. I was really just having fun on the Internet watching people. I love when people get all riled up. And you had one I really like, that is you have some intense feelings about the words, follow your passion.

So, I want you to tell us. Triggering me as we come out the gate. Sorry. What do you think? Should people follow their passion? Yes, they're good at it. I mean, because this is the thing, like of course, you should follow your passion, but what if you suck at it? I mean, like this is the thing. It's like I like to sing. I'm really passionate about it. But it is like I've lost friends over it. I don't do it in front of my family. It's just not my Cape Philly. Like what you should do with your life, what you should follow, I mean to be kind of a prig about it is that there's sort of three things that have to be there. So your passion, which would be your interests, okay? What you're really, really interested in, what turns your crank, oh, that calls me. So that's one leg of the stool. Then there's what you're good at, your aptitudes. Oops, let's not forget those, shall we? Because it's actually easier in life if you're doing what you're good at. Now, you can, if you're so passionate, then you don't care if you're good or bad at it. That's fine, but you also have to kind of pay the bills. So like then, there's your aptitudes. And then the third leg is very, very important, which is what your values are. And most people don't know what their values are, so they sort of throw those over. Oh, everybody has the same values. Honesty, compassion, goodness and kindness. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we all agree. But actually, what you should be following is not your passion, but it's a synthesis of three data sets. It's very– oh, that's very complicated to figure out. Actually not so complicated to figure out. It will save you years of boneheaded mistakes.

So, mine will do the work. I love that. Well, I can also tell usually if somebody just wants to make you feel good and not make you money, and then they tell you to follow your passion. You're like, of course, I don't make you really popular, but you'll never actually achieve much of anything. Well, I mean, look, there are some people who followed their passion and they had spectacular lives but it was because they were also good at it and it aligned with their values. What do you think for somebody who says, I'm not exceptionally good at anything. I have no idea what I'm good at? What do you tell them? They have not looked hard enough. I mean, everybody is good at something, but you can't just guess. I mean, there's like we have tests. It was part of becoming ULAS, my whole system that we look at. We have tests. You've got to find out what you're good at. You're good at something. Everybody's got to get like, but people have these very narrowly defined views of what aptitudes are, but you can build a whole career in life over the aptitude, the strength, the gift of making strangers feel welcome.