Why Won't A Verdict Give The Reiner Family Any Peace?

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Romy Reiner is 28 years old. She's a photographer and an artist. On December 14th of 25, she got a call from a massage therapist who couldn't reach her parents for a scheduled appointment. So Romy went to check on them. She walked into her parents' home in Brentwood and she found her father's body in the master bedroom and she called 911
And somewhere in the hours it followed, as paramedics arrived, his police took over as news began to spread through Hollywood and beyond. Romy learned that her brother Nick, the one who'd been living in the guest house on the property, was a suspect. He was arrested that night near USC. He's now charged with two counts of first degree murder. We spent a lot of time talking about Nick, Reiner, on this show, his mental illness, his legal problems, his not guilty plea, the defense strategies that might be coming. But today I want to talk about the people who haven't had a lot of focus on them, who we haven't focused on enough, the ones who have to live with what happened, the ones who didn't choose any of this but will carry it for the rest of their lives. Jake Reiner, Romy Reiner and Tracy Reiner, the ones left behind. Jake is 34 He was a news reporter in Texas and California, including at CBS Los Angeles, before following his father into the film industry. He's acted in a few projects, including Being Charlie, the 2015 film his father directed and his brother Nick co-wrote, the one about addiction, the one based on their family's real experiences. Romy, as I mentioned, is 28, a photographer like her mother, an artist, the one who found the body. Tracy is 61, Rob Reiner's oldest child, adopted during his marriage to Penny Marshall. She saw her father at a family gathering the day before he died. When asked for comment after the news broke, she said simply, I came from the greatest family ever.
I don't even know what to say. I'm in shock. Three siblings, three people who woke up on December 14th with parents and went to bed that night without them.
But here's what makes your situation different from almost any other grief you can imagine. These aren't just mourning children. They occupy three roles simultaneously, and those roles don't fit together cleanly. First, they're the primary mourners. There's no one above them in the family hierarchy now. No parents to defer to, no elders to lean on. They are the top of the family tree.
Whether they're ready for that or not. Second, they're the victims next of kin. Under California's Victim Bill of Rights, Marcy's Law, they have legal standing. The DA has said he'll consider their input on major decisions, including whether to seek the death penalty for their own brother. Third, they're the family of the accused. Nick is their brother. Whether he allegedly did or whatever he allegedly did, they share his DNA. They share a childhood. They share parents that are now dead.
All three roles at once for the rest of their lives. A few days after their parents were found, Jake and Romy released a joint statement. Words cannot even begin to describe the unimaginable pain we are experiencing every moment of the day, they wrote. The horrific and devastating loss of our parents, Rob and Michelle Reiner, is something that no one should ever experience. They weren't just our parents, they were our best friends. They asked for respect and privacy, they asked for speculation to be tempered with compassion, they asked for the parents, their parents, to be remembered for the incredible lives they lived and the love they gave. What they didn't say, what they didn't need to say, is that they're now trapped in a legal process that will drag on for years. When Nixon attorney, former attorney Alan Jackson, withdrew from the case back in January, the family released another statement, this one was shorter. They have the utmost trust in the legal process and will not comment further on matters related to the legal proceedings. That's the public posture. Trust the process, no further comment. But think about what the process actually requires of them. DA Nathan Hockman has said his office will take the thoughts and desires of the family into consideration when deciding whether to seek the death penalty. That sounds like it gives them power. It actually doesn't. Legal experts have been clear. Family input is meaningful, but it's not controlling. Prosecutors can listen to the family and still do whatever they determine is appropriate based on the evidence, the law and their own judgment. Sources say the Reiner siblings have made it clear they don't want the death penalty for Nick. But that doesn't mean they'll get what they want. It just means they had to have that conversation. They had to think about it. They had to form a position on whether their brother should be executed for killing their parents. That's the cruelty of this situation. Even when the legal system offers the family a voice, exercising that voice requires them to engage with questions no one should ever have to answer. Let me talk about grief for a minute because there's a body of research on what happens to siblings when they lose a brother or sister. And almost none of it applies to what Jake and Romy and Tracy are going through. Psychologists talk about something called disenfranchised grief. It's the phenomenon where surviving siblings feel their loss doesn't count as much as everyone else's. When adult siblings die or an adult sibling dies, they often leave behind parents, a spouse, children, people whose grief is more socially recognized. The siblings get pushed to the margins. Their pain is real, but it's treated as secondary. Researchers at the Trauma and Grief Center have documented this. Somehow, their grief doesn't feel as important or relevant as the grief of their parents, when psychologists noted, and that's a big problem. But the Reiner siblings don't have parents to defer to. Their parents are the one who's died. There's no one above them in the grief hierarchy. They are the primary mourners, whether society recognizes it or not. And on top of that, they're dealing with factors that compound trauma in ways the research barely covers. Romy found the body. That alone can cause post-traumatic stress. That lasts a lifetime. The deaths were violent. Homicide grief is different from other kinds of loss. It's complicated by investigations, legal proceedings, media coverage, and the knowledge that someone chose to do this. And the person who allegedly chose to do this is their brother.