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**Lewis Howes** (0:01)
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Welcome back, everyone, to The School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Dr. Becky in the house. Good to see you. Welcome.

**Dr. Becky Kennedy** (2:46)
Thanks for having me.

**Lewis Howes** (2:47)
Very excited. I feel like I had a struggling childhood and I love my parents, but I also know that they could have done some things differently. And I think there's probably a lot of us in the world who are thinking, I love and appreciate a lot about my parents, but they might have also done some messed up things. And if we can start to do our own healing journey and start to reflect that, okay, maybe they just didn't have the tools, they didn't know any better. Hopefully, they had the best intentions and we can try to have some compassion for our parents as adults. Then there's some more integration and healing that I think allows us for us as we grow up, right?
However, how do we learn to make sure we raise good human beings without messing them up when we haven't been taught how to be good parents? And to add to that question, is it possible to raise a child that is not traumatized in some way, no matter how good we try to raise them?

**Dr. Becky Kennedy** (3:54)
I'm going to try to answer all that. You'll let me know which parts of the question I only use as we go.
So what you started with just resonates with me so strongly. And I think it really is the reason I get out of bed every morning, right? Parenting is the most important job in the world, and it is the hardest job. And it's probably the job we'll have for the longest number of years, because everyone knows it's more than 18 years, right? So and someone said to me, I'll never forget, it's the only job you care about on your deathbed. Which I was like, OK, that's heavy. But I think that's, I mean, I wouldn't know yet, hopefully. But I think that's true. And it's also the only job that falls under very difficult, very impactful, very ongoing, that we literally get no training for. Right? And like, if my friend was a surgeon and called me and said, I'm not doing surgery, right? And I'm messing everything up and kind of messed up this person forever and I'm so bad. And then I started poking around and it turned out she never went to med school or never went to residency. I'm pretty sure I would say to her, hey, like this is not that you're a bad surgeon. Like that's not what this is. You weren't adequately prepared and it's probably time to invest in resources. And I just want to say too, because I think it's important that if she said, don't worry, I got my, I got all my tips on Instagram, I'd say, okay, I mean, like you might, I want to do a little more in-depth than that, you know? Like I think you deserve a little better, you know, than that. And yet this is what parents are set up for.