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**Dr. Shefali Tsabary** (1:59)
Children's mental health crisis has never been such an abysmal tragedy. Suicidality, loneliness, anxiety, body dysmorphia.

**Lewis Howes** (2:11)
How can parents protect their kids from everything coming at them?

**Dr. Shefali Tsabary** (2:15)
The parent needs to be in supreme emotional regulation. If the parent is on TikTok and the parent is sabotaged and hijacked by comparison and anxiety and perfectionism, how will they show up for this child?

**Lewis Howes** (2:31)
Oprah has called her revolutionary and the best child expert she has ever interviewed and the pioneer of the conscious parenting movement. Please welcome Dr. Shefali.

**Dr. Shefali Tsabary** (2:41)
I empower parents to just be very comfortable with the fact that they are going to screw up their children. Like, don't try to avoid that. If you just accept, it is going to be a show.
Now let me lean in and try to show up the best I can.

**Lewis Howes** (2:58)
What is the number one skill for conscious parenting?

**Dr. Shefali Tsabary** (3:01)
The skill above all skills is the ability to...

**Lewis Howes** (3:10)
I'm excited about this because you have two new books out. One is called Raising Conscious Daughters, which is perfect for me because I have seven daughters, six months old. And the other one is called Raising Conscious Sons.
So for any parents listening or watching, these are the two books that they need to get to understand how to not mess up their children and how to hopefully be better than their parents. Now a lot of people watching or listening would probably resonate with they didn't have the best childhoods. Some people said they had a great childhood and their parents were amazing.
And that's great. But those that think they had bad childhoods or they had emotionally immature parents have this belief that they're going to raise their kids differently. But sometimes that can be a trap to think, my parents didn't do it the right way. They messed me up. I'm not going to do that to my kids. Why is that belief a trap in your mind?

**Dr. Shefali Tsabary** (4:09)
Because you can't think your way into good parenting. You have to heal your way into good parenting. And healing happens in relationship. So you can think, like every non-parent, seeing a parent on the plane with their toddler who's throwing all the stuff all over the aisle, and that non-parent, like you and I did before we became parents, we were like, I'll never be like that. I will know how to connect to my child. I'll know how to regulate. I won't lose my shit.
But you can't think conscious parenting. It is a practice, it is a cultivation, it is a healing, and it is a growing into. And you have to do the work. But here's the beautiful thing about what I teach in conscious parenting, is that your children come to raise you and they come to awaken you if you're willing to look into the mirror of this most intense relationship. And the reason I call it more intense of a mirror than the partner is because you can't return them. You can't divorce them. There's no expiration date. There's no exit ramp.