Why Do We Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes? | Kati Morton - EP 781

**SPEAKER_1** (0:00)
Coming up next on Passion Struck.

**Kati Morton** (0:02)
I think in general, as humans, it's a very I know people will always say there's a lot of people online that be like I don't like to be around other people. I prefer to be alone, or we want to be like the different person, the loaner, the weirdo, and where people are trying to take ownership over that. But to this research's point, there's such a huge part of our creation as humans that are about us being connected and mattering to other humans.

**John R. Miles** (0:34)
Welcome to Passion Struck. I'm your host, John Miles. This is the show where we explore the art of human flourishing and what truly means to live like it matters.
Each week, I sit down with change makers, creators, scientists, and everyday heroes to decode the human experience and uncover the tools that help us lead with meaning, heal with hurts, and pursue the fullest expression.

**SPEAKER_1** (0:57)
Of who we're capable of becoming.

**John R. Miles** (0:59)
Whether you're just finding your future, developing as a leader, or seeking deeper alignment in your life, this show is your invitation to grow with purpose and act with intention, because the secret to a life of deep purpose, connection, and impact is choosing to live like you matter.
Hey, friends, and welcome back to episode seven hundred and eighty one of Passion Struck. We are now into week three of our series on the Connection Crisis, and we've been exploring a deceptively simple question, what makes people feel truly connected? Last Tuesday, I was joined by Greg McEwan, the best selling author of Essentialism and a leading voice on how we design our lives around what truly matters. Together, we explored one of the hidden barriers to human connection, a concept he calls confident misunderstanding. And then last Thursday, Marcus Buckingham, a world renowned researcher and a pioneer the Global Strengths movement, shared a powerful perspective on one of the most overlooked forces in leadership and organizational success, which is the power of love. We discussed why connection, significance, warmth, and human flourishing are not just soft ideals, but the absolute essential ingredients we need to build thriving teams and communities.
Those conversations focused on what happens between people, but today we're turning inward because sometimes the greatest barriers to connection aren't found in our workplaces, our friendships, or our relationships that they're found within ourselves.

**SPEAKER_1** (2:33)
Most of us have.

**John R. Miles** (2:33)
Experienced the frustration of repeating behaviors we promised we'd stop. We overwork even when we're exhausted. We people please when we know we should set boundaries. We stay in relationships that no longer serve us. We chase achievement long after to stop bringing fulfillment, and no matter how much self awareness we gain, we often find ourselves returning to the same emotional patterns again and again. The uncomfortable truth is that any of our most persistent behaviors were learned long before we ever had the language to understand them. As children, we develop internal blueprints about love, belonging, approval, conflict, and safety. Those blueprints don't simply disappear as we grow older.
They operate quietly beneath the surface, shaping our decisions, our relationships, and our reactions and ways we often fail to recognize. My guest today is Katie Morton, licensed therapist, mental health educator, and best selling author Why do we keep doing this?
Her work has helped millions better understand the hidden emotional patterns driving their lives and how they can begin creating meaningful.

**SPEAKER_1** (3:42)
And lasting change.

**John R. Miles** (3:43)
In today's conversation, you'll learn why perfectionism, burnout, people pleasing, and self abandonment are often rooted in old emotional adaptations rather than personal weakness.
We discuss why awareness alone isn't enough to create transformation, how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, and why curiosity may be one of the most powerful tools we have for changing our lives. If you've ever felt trapped inside a version of yourself you've outchroned, this conversation will help you understand why before we dive in. If this episode helps you better understand your own patterns or gives you language for a struggle you've been carrying, please share it with someone who might benefit from hearing it. Taking sixty seconds to leave a rating or review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts helps us reach more people searching for these conversations, and make sure you're subscribed on YouTube so you never miss an episode.

**SPEAKER_1** (4:36)
You can also download the Companion.

**John R. Miles** (4:37)
Workbook and access our free weekly reflections right now on my substack at theignitedlife dot net. Now let's dive in with Katie Morton. Thank you for choosing Passion Struck and choosing me to be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life that matters. Now let that journey begin.