The No.1 Menopause Doctor: They’re Lying To You About Menopause! Brand New Science! (Men Need To Listen Too!): Mary Claire Haver

**Mary Claire Haver** (0:00)
In 2023, 85% of women are complaining of menopausal symptoms. 10.5% are receiving treatment or therapy. I mean, it would be as if your testicles shriveled up and died at 51
That's the equivalent.

**SPEAKER_2** (0:12)
Dr. Mary Claire Haver, renowned menopause expert, with more than 2 million followers, helping countless women through their menopause experiences.

**Mary Claire Haver** (0:20)
Menopause is inevitable. Suffering is not. But a woman is more likely to be prescribed an antidepressant for her menopause than hormone therapy. Women by the thousands are like, oh my God, I had no idea. That's when I realized no one's talking about this. So here's their laundry list of symptoms. We've categorized about 70
So there's brain fog, changes in her sexual function, weight gain, but here's the scary things. And the studies have been done.
We see either a new onset or worsening of depression, anxiety, bipolar, ADHD, risks for cardiovascular disease and diabetes increases with current urinary tract infections, which is a major cause of death for women. They're suffering in silence. And I was one of those women. I wanna see my grandkids one day. I wanna watch these women I've raised grow up and be the women they're meant to be. And that choice might get taken away from me if I'm not careful.
But there's lots of things that we can do. For example, we see a dramatic loss of muscle mass. Focus on strength training. This is going to determine your longevity as you age. Strength over skinny.

**Steven Bartlett** (1:23)
What about your diet?

**Mary Claire Haver** (1:25)
I developed a program for my patients. And it's not rocket science, it's...

**Steven Bartlett** (1:29)
Whether you're a man or a woman, menopause is going to affect you because it's going to affect 50% of our society. And there is 1.2 billion women being affected by menopause right now. And whether you're a man or a woman, most of us don't have the answers. How do we help? How do we talk about it? What is it? How does it affect the human body?
If you're in a relationship with a woman that's in perimenopause, which can start at 30, up to a woman that is currently going through menopause in her 40s or 50s or 60s, what should you do to support her? What can she do to support herself? This subject of menopause has exploded in public conversation, thankfully. But there's still so many unanswered questions. And that's why today I invited one of the leading voices on menopause globally onto my show. Even as a man that won't go through menopause myself, but has a partner and a mum that certainly will, there's something that everyone can learn from this. And I implore all men who maybe clicked on this episode or were sent this link to listen.
Please just listen, because you can learn something too. Thank you.
Dr. Mary Claire Haver, why do you do what you do?

**Mary Claire Haver** (3:01)
You know, I started out in medicine the way most people do. I wanted to help people.
And in our training and school, we get to have a little taste of all the different specialties. And my very last rotation in my third year was OBGYN. And I really liked surgery. I really liked some of the surgical subspecialties, so I thought that would be my path. But then when I delivered my first baby and all that rush of emotion and dopamine and how beautiful that whole process was, I knew that that was gonna be my calling.
And so I did the traditional four-year residency and loved it and really did well and went into private practice.
After about three years of doing the private practice route, I realized I missed being in academics. I wanted that ability to do research and be around students and teach as well as take care of patients. So I went back on as faculty and everything was going great. I was very successful. I was doing pap smears and babies and birth control and all the things that traditional OBGEN does. And then I was aging as my patients were aging too.
And when I got to my 40s, I realized that there was a big gap in my education and knowledge around menopause. So I started researching. Most of my patients were coming in. The pain point was weight gain. And they were like, I'm not doing anything different. I'm working out. I haven't changed my diet. And that little voice in my head was like, workout more, eat less. We tend to move less. I was just going with the script that had been handed to me for years that calories in calories out is the only way.