The Best Relationships Don't Start When Two People Find Each Other... They Start When Two People Find God and Then Recognize Each Other on the Path

**Matthew Gottesman** (0:02)
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Welcome to episode 804, the best relationships don't start when two people find each other. They start when two people find God and then recognize each other on the path. Yes, that is a long title. Hear me out. I'm gonna say this action title one more time. The best relationships don't start when two people find each other. They start when two people find God and then recognize each other on the path. Alignment, alignment, alignment. Is this easy? No. I mean, when we get out of our way, it feels easier, but we're human. And this is something that I have found that as I deepen my relationship with God, I also am able to deepen the relationship with, in myself, feeling what feels like, what comes from God and what doesn't. And I've also learned in deepening this faith that when I don't know what to do in something like a business opportunity, when I don't know what to do for a project, when I don't know what to do if this person could be potentially a business partner or a collaboration or whatever it might be, or maybe it's like your friend needs something, needs help, or maybe you meet somebody and you want to take them to God like, hey, is this person for me? If they're not, remove them. If they are, expand it and show me the role that I play. So the more I've allowed God into my life to help me with decision-making, the easier I see how God moves.
And so that got me really thinking a lot about how, when you are answering your call, when you are doing your work, when you are able to bring all things to God, and you can hear and feel in your system, like literally, we have this nervous system that talks to us and you can feel what pulls you further into yourself and what pulls you out. I was having this conversation with a good friend of mine the other day. I've mentioned him several times on this podcast. And we were talking just about gravity, and we were talking about your system feeling so settled. And you can actually feel, he was bringing up a great point, he goes, you ever commit to an event or something that you have to do, and then afterwards, you can actually feel it in your system. It doesn't necessarily feel, it's not that it doesn't feel clean, it just doesn't feel like maybe you should be spending your time doing that. Nothing wrong with the event or the thing that you're committing to, just that you can feel like it's almost pulling you out of your own alignment. He's like, I can't understand, or he said, I don't understand why it's happening more and more, but it is happening more and more where I can actually feel in real time what is pulling me away from a path and what's deepening my relationship with it. And I said, that, that right there. And I was like, listen, I get it. The deeper I work on my faith with God and feeling what I feel in my system, the more I'm able to tap in in real time and be like, this feels a lie, this doesn't. And if you can remove judgment of, oh, is there something wrong with that person? Oh, is there something wrong with that opportunity? Is it like, you know, it doesn't have to be that it's a bad thing or a bad person or a bad environment. You can just feel if it's on path for you. So the more I'm practicing that, the more you can feel what is deepening your relationship with God and your path and what may be actually slightly distracting you from it, right? Well, this is how we also can recognize others. We can recognize opportunities. And in this particular case of this episode, your divine union partner, your person, right? Now, somebody else also wants to ask me, how will you know a yes? And I said the same way I will know it, the same way I already know a no, because you know a no very well. And I was like, and then the guy that's asked me that question is like, fair point. I'm like, well, it's not like the yeses aren't necessarily in an abundance. I mean, they are, but it's that your discernment is saying the no's more often. I was like, when it comes to your partner, I mean, that's a one yes. And so he's like, no, that's a fair point. So you'd know a yes with conviction the same way you know no's. So in this episode, I want to talk about why the strongest relationships are rooted in shared devotion, not just shared attraction. Why I say this is because you can meet incredible, incredible people out there, and there could be chemistry and attraction and intensity, and we have to be careful.